How we treat each other here

Community guidelines

BONE is a safe space — and that only works if everyone plays along. These guidelines describe how we talk, flirt and date here. They're not legal small print; they're our shared understanding of what makes BONE a good place to be.

We deliberately distinguish between your profile — publicly visible to everyone, hence stricter — and what you write in chat — private, hence with more leeway. What you exchange in chat is end-to-end encrypted; we can't read it. Even so, limits apply there too.

On your profile

Strict — visible to everyone.

No exclusionary language. Phrasings like "no fats, no fems, no asians" or comparable enumerations don't belong on your profile — no matter how politely worded. Who you're into is something for chat.
Nothing illegal. Substances, services or content that aren't legal outside the app don't belong on a profile here either — not in disguise.
No sex-work solicitations. Prices, rates, "generous only", references to paid OnlyFans content or comparable platforms.
No depictions of violence, hate symbols or threats. No exceptions.
No photos of others without their consent. Even if the person is your ex.

In chat

Less strict — private, confidential, your conversation.

Consent is not negotiable. If the other person says "no" or doesn't respond — respect it. Repeated messages after a clear stop are harassment.
HIV and PrEP status are private. No one has to disclose them. Those who do deserve a non-judgmental response. We act on stigmatising behaviour.
No photos of third parties without their consent. Not even in private chat.
No photos of minors. Ever. We report this to law enforcement.
No doxxing threats. "I'll tell your employer or your family" is a criminal offence. We take this seriously.

Across your entire presence

One person, one profile. Multiple accounts usually serve to evade blocks or bans.
Minimum age 18. False information leads to account closure.
Real photos. AI-generated or stolen profile pictures will be removed.
Be yourself. Posing as someone else (catfishing) is fraud.

When someone breaks the rules

Report it. On a profile → three dots → "Report". In chat → three dots → "Report". Both are anonymous; the reported user doesn't learn who reported them.
We respond proportionally. From warnings to temporary suspensions to permanent account deletion. For severe violations (child sexual abuse material, doxxing, threats of violence) the response is immediate and without warning.
Appeals are possible. If you believe a decision was wrong, write to info@bone-app.com.

If something happens to you

If you feel harassed, threatened or unsafe on BONE:

Block takes effect immediately. The other user no longer sees you and can no longer contact you.
In case of acute danger contact the police (110 in Germany, 133 in Austria, 117 in Switzerland). We cooperate with law-enforcement agencies on legitimate requests.
For emotional first aid — TelefonSeelsorge 0800 111 0 111, free and anonymous, German-speaking.

A closing word

These guidelines are a living document. If you notice something missing here, or if you find a rule unfair — write to us. BONE grows with its community, not against it.